It will be interesting to see what age group attends these courses as there are thousands of unmarried asian muslim females. A course like this is not targeted for the likes of them as not many men  to marry. Central masjid asked a few weeks ago those seeking marriage please stay behind for discussion. Result was 95 families for the women and 5 families from the males.

Anyone else noticed that most reverted white women have a higher chance of marrying than that of an asian muslim female. Also, the age comparison on when they marry their asian/ arab partner.

Say, they reverted before marriage, how many of them are left unmarried. If you have statistics carried out on all the white reverts as a total population of women, the chances are they are more likely percentage wise to be married than that of total population comparison of an asian muslim female being married.

The reason for this is men want a fair and white woman. Also, they have been dating before marriage and then she reverts in most cases.

The leaders and community turn a blind eye to this and are in denial. They are not really doing anything to help and are just wanting a name for themselves.

I like many other have no faith in those so called leaders who do not help the ummah especially women in fullfilling half their faith as they know it is so out of hand and beyond their control. They can only target the next generation but not of those woman in the age group of 29-37+.

They have failed us and no amount is going to gain their respect until they act now and do something to that age group to help the problem.

If they were genuinely concerned they would email and write back etc when you contact them, however don't as they cannot solve the issue. Sad but true.

Think twice before you ask a woman why she is not married and she is the age she is. Most are believing she is fussy when this is far from the truth.

Next time I am asked, I will answer, Islam allows a man to marry 4 wives.How do you feel about me marrying your husband/ self, then I will see what the reply is.

shame on them!

Once again the daggers come out so easily for the elders. ‘What do they know about Islam’…..how dare we ask what they know, what do we know? Nothing. We are ignorant in our own lifes and now blame the masjid elders. Our generation go clubbing, drinking, have girlfriends and we blame the elders. Its our generation that are failing the muslim girls. What would you like the elders to do, hold a disco in the mosque? Since when did a place of prayer become a social meeting place. People give to the mosque and the mosque only. They do not give donations so they can be spent on marriage functions. The administrators biased views are evident  on previous posts.

Why don’t the younger generation wake up. Instead of wallowing in self pity there is nothing stopping you organising a marriage  function elsewhere. Or is it that you pathetic individuals don’t have a penny to rub together and want the mosque funds to hold social gatherings. Tut tut. Leave the mosque as a place of worship and all other events can be held anywhere. If you want DO want to hold it in the community hall then hire it out.

Match making is difficult indeed but one questions why so many people are on the shelf. What where they doing when they were in their prime? Oh yes, I forget, they didn’t want to get married because they were chasing a career, or they couldn’t event strike a sentence together, or they were to shy, or the prospective partner was not rich enough, or educated enough or god knows what. So don’t then reach your thirties and think its everyone’s else’s fault. NO, its yours for being too choosey and dedicated to materialistic lifestyles. Grow up and take responsibility for yourselves, if the mosque committee says no then go and organise an event elsewhere rather than moaning about it.

Dear or dear, east enders obviously  appears to have affected you in your early youth.

 What is it that you are asking the masjid to provide to help people find partners? Didn’t someone earlier comment that on one occasion there were mainly women who wanted a function held?

 Anyway, I don’t understand what the argument here is ? Finding partners is not the masjids responsibility. Secondly I reiterate until you accept your failings only then will you realize that YOU have to sort it out. Your example of a battered women is totally different. She has an option to go to the local council, police, a womens’ refuge. What does  she want from the mosque, a bed and a roof? The mosque is not a social club. But ofcourse they should be sympathetic to her. And guide her to social services. You have purposely used examples which are not relevant and do not support your argument.

 Why do people always look for someone to blame. What happens if the marriage goes wrong. Is it the masjids fault if they were originally involved.  You need to wake up. If you are struggling to find a partner then go online on the muslim websites, or go to a match maker. There are over 1mn muslims in this country of all races and walks of life. Are you telling me there is no choice. We see weddings being held every weekend, where have these people found partners? By getting off their sofa and getting out there.

 The real issue which again you are blind and ignorant to is that YOU and people like you love to blame others. You do nothing to help but blame. Do you know of any girls who are wanting to get married? If so why don’t you introduce them ? But no, that would be too much like hard work for you. Someone else should take that responsibility.